they asked: If you died, what would you want written on your gravestone. My response was, “Denise was WELL LOVED”. I believed that if by the time I died, my legacy was having been loved by many then I would know that somewhere along my journey on this earth I had found the happiness that I was seeking. All I thought I ever wanted was to feel loved. But what feeling loved really meant to me had nothing to do with another person loving me, but having some person convince me that I was worthy of loving.
Some people come into life to name that tune in one note, others come in to name that tune in ten notes. Human beings are not standardized, our journeys are not standardized, so we cannot standardize the lives that we live. Success in life is not measured by how many steps it took to get there, but that we ultimately got there. This is equally valid in our relationships. Sometimes it takes more than one relationship to find out who we are, what we need, and what we have to give. Sometimes what we find out about ourselves in one relationship leads us to another.